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It’s All Just Stuff…

February 5, 2011 by Deanna Tousignant 9 Comments

My grandmother passed away a little while ago, so her house is going up for sale.  All of her possessions are being gotten rid of.  It isn’t sudden.  My grandmother had been in and out of the hospital and she had moved to a senior’s residence a few months ago.  Back in November I started helping my mom go through her belongings.  Sorting through everything.  This is garbage, this to donate, this to keep.  We got rid of everything but the furniture and the very best of the “stuff”.

I thought we were going to have an estate sale, and I was really looking forward to it.   I wasn’t going to receive any of the money from it, but I was looking forward to it regardless. I was proud of the treasures we had sorted out and set aside. I think I just wanted to find good homes for all of her stuff.

Last weekend the house was put on the market and it was decided that everything left in the house would be pitched.  Either thrown out or given to the Good Will. When I found out I was really upset and I had that nasty in the pit of your stomach feeling.  The other night when I got up at 3am to nurse the baby I never fell back asleep. I just lay in bed crying and thinking about all of my grandma’s stuff being thrown away. I realize this is ridiculous.  Loosing sleep over stuff. I keep telling myself, “It’s just stuff.”

I love old things.  I have always loved old things.  Even when I was seven or eight years old all of the best stuff, many of my favourite possessions, came from yard sales or from my grandmother’s basement.  To me each old item is unique and irreplaceable.

When I told my husband that they were going to throw out all of my grandmother’s stuff he immediately said, “Tell them we’ll take it all.”  And put it where?  We have a house FULL of stuff, I don’t need more stuff.  What I need is…. good homes found for each possession.  To know that there is value in these items.  If my grandmother choose to hold on to something for 60 or 40 or 30 years, there is a reason. It’s not garbage.  It’s not something to be thrown out.

And some of the stuff I did want, rather badly.  I didn’t even ask.  I figure someone else wants this stuff.  If they don’t want it then it should be sold in the estate sale. I felt that everything that was left was valuable. Valuable stuff? It’s all just stuff.

I find myself wondering what will happen to my own possessions when I die.  I tell myself it’s all just stuff, but I’m awfully sentimental over my stuff.  The thought of someone pitching my belonging is intensely depressing.  I feel this crazy compulsion to go around the house and mark everything with post it notes, so if something happened to me my family would know why this stuff is cool.  That bowl was my great grandmothers, I’ve had that doll since I was three, those books are worth money, don’t toss them!  If tomorrow “I should fall from grace with God where no doctor can relieve me”, all of my items would be left without a frame of reference.  To me, precious possessions. To someone else, just stuff.

I guess part of what’s really bothering me is that with my grandmother gone, all of her belongings are taken out of context.  I will never know why this wacky spoon set was wrapped up carefully in the bottom of her cedar chest. I can’t ask her where this pretty glass bowl came from, or find out why she held on to that knickknack for so long.  With her gone, it really is all just stuff.

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Comments

  1. Crafty says

    February 5, 2011 at 12:37 pm

    But that stuff is memories. My sister and I talk about this same subject…our "stuff" are memories of our life. They all do have story attached but no one knows about it but me. I have thought about making a journal to my grandchildren of events and non-events of my life so they will hear about things in my life that I might not tell them. Now I think I need to put a note with those "very special things" that should not be thrown away. I have hand sown items my father picked up in the Philippians on his way to the Korean War. I don't want that kind of thing to be tossed as rags. You have given me the motivation to start making those notes and attaching them to "memories" of my life. Thank you.

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  2. Kat says

    February 5, 2011 at 2:42 pm

    "Stuff" can have a powerful meaning. My grandparents died when I was young but even now there are certain things that belonged to my grandparents that I wish I had now. I do have a few things tucked away and they are very dear to me. It's okay to feel a connection to your grandmother's things and I hope you can find peace with whatever happens to them. *Big hugs*

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  3. Kelly @ City Mom says

    February 5, 2011 at 6:26 pm

    It's such a sad reality! I think about these things sometimes too. Recently we made a new headboard and I wrote the date on the back of it. In my mind I pictured who would find that date, and when. Would they wonder about me and my husband and picture us together putting this thing together?Stuff is just stuff, but it's the stuff that creates our lives. I hope you come to peace with this and with your grandma's possesions.

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  4. Nicole says

    February 5, 2011 at 8:52 pm

    That is sad. It's hard to let go of things. When my grandma moved into palliative care, we had to go through all her things, and there was a lot of "junk" but there were some beautiful treasures too, which were divided amongst us. It is sad, so many memories, and yet we can't keep everything…

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  5. Mama Bird says

    February 5, 2011 at 11:37 pm

    It's not all just "stuff". I completely see where you are coming from and why you would be upset. There's so much more behind the stuff. It's hard to place a "value" on things that represent so much more. I'm glad you can share this experience with your followers – at least I hope it helps you feel more at peace with these events.

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  6. heather@actingbalanc says

    February 9, 2011 at 9:32 am

    stopping by from STT to stumble your post – I've got a bad habit of collecting 'stuff' with memories – but I've started photographing things instead so that I have the memories and someone else has the 'stuff' – you are right about needing closure though 🙂

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  7. Still Blonde after a says

    February 9, 2011 at 3:53 pm

    I am running a challenge on my blog right now to help people get rid of stuff. It's a year long challenge called 365 items in 365 days. I have had 60 people join so far so I know, everyone is not wanting to have so much "Stuff". Please come and join us. Your article can be one of our inspiration pieces. Heck, I am going to link it up for them all anyway on my facebook! Here from STT!

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  8. Still Blonde after a says

    February 9, 2011 at 3:55 pm

    Oops here's the Link for that challenge: <a href="http://stillblondeafteralltheseyears.com/2011/01/100-declutter-challenge-giveaway-365-items-in-365-days/http://stillblondeafteralltheseyears.com/2011/01/… />and at the end of the year, you could win some "Stuff"!

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  9. heather@actingbalanc says

    February 11, 2011 at 9:25 am

    back again to thank you for linking this post up to thirsty for comments – I'm trying to spread the word about it so we can get even more comments… but it's slow to start.Thanks again 🙂

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