I’ve brought my kids on a family vacation to Florida twice now. Twice we’ve visited Orlando as a family. And I’m finding that I feel oddly guilty about it.
See, when I was a kid we would visit Florida and stay with relatives. We’d fly down, or drive (24 hours straight, my dad was hardcore) to Bradenton, or Sarasota, stay for a week or two and head home. We chilled. A lot. We hung out in my grandparent’s lanai and examined the local wildlife (my brother and I did some terrible things to some small lizards, I should feel shame). We shopped at the local grocery store and ate a combination of “weird” foods you could only get in the States and expensive foods my parents would only splurge on during vacation (I grew up thinking that fresh orange juice, the stuff that didn’t come in a frozen slushie can mess, was only available in the Sunshine State).
At one point my grandparents had a house out on the keys. We used to fish into the ocean from their backyard, using fresh shrimp as live bait. We also hung out at the beach. We snorkelled in the shallow water, doing a deadman’s float staring down at wee starfish, shrimp and crabs, maybe four feet out from the beach. We got up at the crack of dawn to head to the beach, walk the shoreline and search for shells. Other times, My parents took us to Venice beach to go hunting for shark’s teeth. We went to Sarasota Jungle Gardens and the Ringling Brothers Museum, and not every year, but some years, we drove the hour and a half to visit the Magic Kingdom.
My kids have never seen the ocean. I have mom guilt. I’ve brought them to Florida twice now, but both times it was direct from the airport to Universal Resort, and then straight back to the airport.
I ADORE Universal. We’ve made so many magical family memories at Universal. But… I still feel guilty for bringing my kids into Florida and not really SHOWING them Florida.
I feel like something is missing from these family vacations. The downtime, the chill out time, the time spent at the local mall, restaurant or grocery shop. And of course, the ocean, the salt water, swimming, fishing, and hunting for shells.
So, I have this odd lingering feeling of guilt. Flying into Florida, arriving in the middle of the night and taking a cab directly to our on-site hotel — my family is missing the local flavour, the wildlife, the culture. As a kid, I knew about gators, and chameleons, and fire ants, and flamingos, and boaboa trees, and unsweet tea, and fresh seafood. Florida had a flavour to it, a feeling, of sun and sand and salt, and fresh oranges, and I would go home and listen to the wind blowing in the trees down our street and think of how it sounded like ocean waves.
Twice, twice, my kids have been to Florida and have only seen concrete, highways, hotels and theme park queues. So I feel a bit guilty. Because while Disney and Universal are definitely all kinds of fun and magical, I know Florida is more than makebelieve characters and roller coasters.
Last October, Porter flew me into Melbourne International Airport for a quick 24-hour Florida visit. It definitely opened my eyes to the appeal of vacationing in Melbourne vs. staying in Orlando. I now have visions of staying in an oceanside hotel and spending the day at the beach, or shopping in historic downtown Melbourne (and possibly slipping off to Walt Disney World for some late night adventures). Or maybe alternating days spent at Universal with days spent exploring the local wildlife at Sebastian Inlet State Park. Or simply chilling at the beach, building sand castles, and collecting shells and pieces of coral.
I’ve done the math and I’ve figured out how much time and money my family can save by flying with Porter, direct from Windsor to Melbourne. I’ve also done a bit of soul searching, examining my feelings of “Florida vacation guilt”. It all adds up to one thing— next time we fly into Melbourne International Airport and stay in one of the beachfront hotels along the Atlantic ocean. So my kids can have a chance to chill, and explore, and dip their feet in the sand. (Ok, the truth is I’ll probably mostly be doing the chilling while the kids will be doing all of the exploring. I’m cool with that.)
What about you folks? Have you ever spent time in Florida? Have you strictly “done Disney” (or Universal)? Or have you hit the beaches and explored the local shops?
Disclosure: In Fall of 2018, Porter flew me into Melbourne International Airport for a quick 24-hour visit to Florida. As always my words and opinions are my own.
Cheryl Ann says
My kids are adults now but we did go to Florida a few times. We either rented a house or a condo in a gated community and hit the parks. We did go to the beach one evening on our last trip because my baby is a lifeguard and wanted to see a beach away from home. I must admit I spent so much time at Kennedy Space Centre that instead of the afternoon and evening at the beach we only had a little over an hour.
Deanna Tousignant says
Oh, I have to admit to being jealous. I want to visit the Kennedy Space Centre so badly! This last visit to Florida, where I went on my own to Melbourne as a blogger-thing, the main reason I said yes was that we were supposed to spend the afternoon at the Space Centre having lunch with an astronaut. Um. Lunch with an astronaut? Yes, please! I was so crushed when that portion of the trip ended up being cancelled. I’ve also always wanted to stay in a vacation home. I’ve looked into it and planned it out a few times now, but for various reasons, it just never came together. So I guess I’m jealous on two counts, LOL.
Isabelle L. says
I went to Florida when I was a kid too… once at around 8 or 9 years old. If my memories are precise I think we stayed on the Gulf of Mexico back then… not sure’. But we did go to Disney World. We drove back then.
When I got married in 1998, we decided to go to F’orida For our honeymoon – Disney, universal, seaworld and à trip to Daytona beach. This was 20 years later for me… a first for my husband.
This year we celebrate our 20 years anniversary and our trip is…… going to F’orida with our kids who have not set foot there. We are thinking it might be our last trip the whole family together because the kids are getting older…. 10, 12, 14, 17. And yes Disney is part of our destination along with Gulf of Mexico and Atlantic Ocean. We will be staying at state parks because we are drivingwith our RV. The plan is to stay 3 weeks there’s and we are taking 1 week to drive in and back. We would also like to swing through Tennessee to visit friends there. Fun time!
Deanna Tousignant says
That sounds like such a super fun anniversary trip! I hope you and your family have a blast.
We live in Florida in the north. I have not taken the kids to Disney or Universal in years. When they were younger we used to go every year but now they are older it is not as exciting to them anymore. It is a feeling of been there done that. Yes some of the rides have changed but not that much that you want to go every year. Also the tourist areas are ridiculous with a bunch of overpriced restaurants and designer stores. When I go to Orlando it is not for a long stay. I always stay off property and take the kids to see the town. I explain to them how it was when I first moved to FL 15 years ago. We go to local restaurants not the tourist traps. We prefer to take the kids to the beach in St Augustine, Daytona, or Tampa/St Pete. It is more enjoyable for us than standing in lines at the theme parks.
Deanna Tousignant says
I would love to know which local restaurants you’d recommend. I try to do my research before travelling, but still end up at my fair share of “tourist traps”, sometimes due to tiredness and proximity, I must admit, LOL. .
Debbie White-Beattie says
You shouldn’t feel guilty about what you haven’t given your kids because they are lucky to have been to Florida. Most people can’t afford to take a vacation here let alone go to Florida but we also have beaches here.
Guilt is not something you should feel especially when you are doing your best.
Deanna Tousignant says
I do realize just how darn lucky we are to have been able to take a family vacation to Florida. It’s something that probably would never have happened if it weren’t for my blog. (And we do have beaches here in Ontario, but they are NOT the same. Lake beach vs. ocean beach is a very different spot. They both have their charms. I happen to prefer ocean beaches, I know some folks feel otherwise.)