I think I’m probably in the same boat as most mom’s here. I find myself saying “No!” to my kids about a hundred times a day. Now some are the absolutely necessary keep my kids from hurting themselves safety Nos. No, you can’t put that up your nose. No you can’t yank on the power cords. No, you can’t dance when we’re crossing the street. No, you can’t hit your sister. However some are the not so absolutely necessary, except perhaps to mom’s sanity, convenience Nos.
This week I decided to take the Procter & Gamble It All Starts with Yes Challenge and turn some of those convenience Nos into Yes! moments.
No, you can’t play with the crayons unless your sister is sleeping.
My four year old daughter loves to colour. So does her little sister. Baby-G loves to scribble on art paper, in colouring books, on the hardwood floors, on the doors and door frames and all over the walls. I have corrected her and shown her to colour only on the paper… but if I get distracted and turn away for even a moment she will go for the nearest blank wall and attempt to improve it. If we miss a crayon while cleaning up, she will find it late and get to creating. The solution? I took away all the crayons. Which is harsh and a bit unfair to my older daughter who really loves to draw and colour. So this week I gave them back the crayons, and they both had a blast. And yes, someone did manage to sneak some extra colour onto my hallway walls… but that’s what Mr. Clean Magic Erasers are for.
No, Mommy doesn’t need your help in the kitchen.
My four year old absolutely loves helping in the kitchen. The honest truth here is that having her “help” is more work then anything, as she usually makes messes and doubles the time I need to get things done. This week I made the effort to invite not only G-Girl, but also her little sister, into the kitchen to help me cook. We used a dining room chair instead of the table to bring things down to Baby-G’s height. We made banana bread, we baked cookies, and we had a blast.
No, you can’t sit in the big chair. You sit in the highchair.
Sometimes our kids surprise us, and they’re ready to move onto the next stage in something before we realize. Last week Baby-G started asking to sit in a “big chair” at the dining room table. She sees G-Girl doing it, and she wants to be like big sister. My gut reaction was, “Absolutely not. You sit in the highchair.” She’s only just turning two this month. Her older sister was strapped into a chair until she was a least two and a half. But then I stopped and I thought about it… and I couldn’t think of any really solid reason why this had to be a no. So I let her sit in the regular dining room chair, and she was so very proud of herself. Absolutely beaming and muttering “I big, I sit!!” She made a terrible mess, and since then I’ve been wishing I kept her in the ‘I can strap her in and she can’t get out of her chair between every bite’ high chair. But it was worth it to see that sense of pride and accomplishment in such a tiny being.
So to me, that’s what this challenge is all about… Listening to our kids, and turning No moments, into Yes moments. Allowing them to empower themselves, to learn, to make mistakes, and messes, huge bleeping messes. To allow them to feel important, to feel loved, to feel pride and a sense of accomplishment. And all of that is totally worth a little extra clean-up time.
P & G’s Family Care brands – Bounty, Charmin, and Puffs – along with Tide and Mr. Clean, invite you to take the It All Starts with Yes Challenge, and share the wonderful memories you create.
The Challenge: It’s easy — count the number of times you say ‘no’ in any given week or weekend, and then turn them into “Yes” opportunities. The result: more fun activities together such as baking, games, and arts and crafts!
Head over to the It All Starts With Yes Facebook fan page and create a YES! Pass, which is basically a coupon that promises your child you will spend some fun family time with them, for example by baking cookies. Next step, take a photo of your YES! Pass adventure and redeem it for a chance to win $10,000 towards a dream family adventure. Awesome, right? Also each time you create a YES! Pass you’re entered to win a YES! Kit filled with great prizes from the Proctor & Gamble family of brands. Or you could win one right here….
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